For all my talk about “speaking up” (see previous blog posts), I haven’t been true to my word. That hurts.
I’ve failed to voice my own truth. Blocked it. Denied it. Imagined the worst if I disclosed the “secret.”
I took a very tiny step to sharing my story on Facebook on Oct. 9 with the headline “Infusion day” with this photo.
And when friends asked what was going on after seeing this cryptic message, I said:
New MS drug Ocrevus. Replaces Tysabri.
“I didn’t know,” “Thinking of you,” “Sending you warm wishes,” were among the responses. As the conductor on the denial train, readers would just have to imagine some more; figure it out, whatever.
Then this morning I read Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant. These words, these authors, were speaking directly to me. The book presents real stories, offering practical advice for life’s challenges. I would highly recommend this book to anyone.
Speaking up, I’m also sharing the story I submitted to the Dallas Morning News several months ago (it hasn’t been picked up) before I started on my current course of therapy with the new MS drug Ocrevus.
I feel better now. Much better.
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At the risk of being ignored, unfriended or scoffed at loudly by some, right now is the time to speak up. I’ve never hesitated to comment about things that are meaningful to me. I’m relatively unafraid (or just stupid as some have said) – after all, I’ve jumped out of an airplane 22 times (BTW, I don’t do that anymore).
Now is the time to speak, to voice feelings and concerns, and speak up against injustice. Not tomorrow or the next day or next year. Time is short; life is short.
And a couple of related observations. It’s easy to get angry and write someone off in the heat of the moment when you disagree, but everyone deserves a chance to be heard. I regularly remind myself about forgiveness, mercy and compassion; I’m still working on this.
Second, everyone is dealing with something. Who doesn’t have problems or frustrations? Who doesn’t feel sad or unhappy from time to time? And it’s not about the “issue” itself. If something is significant to you, you won’t hear me say your concern is silly or unfounded or stupid. I may disagree with your point of view, but I’ll listen to what you have to say. Or I’ll be there in the moment with you, not saying anything. Words aren’t necessary. Frankly, sometimes words are overrated and emotions and sentiment rule the day.
It’s no coincidence that today a friend posted on Facebook: “Reminded today of how blessed I am.” Remember the things that matter.
Enjoy. For What It’s Worth, Buffalo Springfield, 1967.
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Between all the outdoor events and festivities, fireworks, food, and time with family and friends, I’ve decided to place one thing at the top of my list on the Fourth of July 2017. Prayer.
Don’t get me wrong.
That doesn’t mean I’ll retire quietly at home in thoughtful meditation for the next few days ignoring this holiday completely. After all, we celebrate American Independence Day on the Fourth of July every year, marking July 4, 1776 as a day that represents the Declaration of Independence and the birth of the United States of America as an independent nation.
My declaration on this Fourth of July is to “speak up” in prayer, words and deeds.
I will act with kindness and inspire reasoned discourse.
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
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It’s about time to say so long to this year and look ahead, but not without a few observations and reflections on 2015.
- The kindness (and patience) of friends old and new never ceases to amaze me.
- I’m grateful for steady work as a freelancer with challenging work assignments.
- Everyone faces challenges, every day – seen and unseen. Be compassionate.
- Love all living creatures. Especially dogs.
- Imagine a world without war or hatred. Consider what you can do to support this vision and turn it into reality. Pray.
- Help others see the best in themselves. Encouragement doesn’t cost a thing.
- Listen more and talk less.
- Learning is a lifelong endeavor.
Here’s to a wonderful 2016!